shout out...

the other day, talking to krista about blogs, krista pointed out that one of the really nice things about blogging is that you get to tell the world how fantastic your friends are and that's pretty cool. so as an example of that...

...this post is for my friend elizabeth.

the other day at school, by the lockers (ah, the lockers! let the comparisons between law school and high school begin!) elizabeth and i had a brief, but fantastic conversation. it was the kind of conversation where high-fives and a lot of right-on-sister!'s would have been appropriate (but as we all know, i don't give high fives. although the other day i passed my friend ed in the hallway and somehow ended up giving him a high five... but don't tell anybody. especially a certain evidence professor, who thank heavens has ceased with such tomfoolery.). ahem, anyway, back to elizabeth...

the gist of our conversation was that the whole notion of being shady and playing games is not only totally stupid and for the birds, but those who choose to partake in such games are really just proving themselves cowardly and unworthy. by this point in our lives, we're all too old to act like such children when it comes to our interactions with each other. what's so wrong with being honest? not only is it the least treacherous path to take, but it's also the most efficient. and people who operate under some delusion that they are powerful enough to actually hurt other peoples' feelings and thus should temper their conduct accordingly (read: lie to themselves by justifying their actions by saying they don't want to hurt someone) are idiots.

in the past couple of years, i realized that it's much better to just say what i'm thinking/feeling than to try and drag things out. and for the most part, it's worked out just magnificently. sure, i get myself into trouble from time to time, but not to the extent that i'd rather go back to couching my thoughts in vague notions of how things are "supposed" to be. because if somebody's gonna like me, i'd rather them like _me_, not some version of myself that gets toned down so that it's universally palatable. i'm a hell of a girl. i'm a catch. but, to borrow a phrase from a brilliant woman, i'm not intended for everyone. and in my world, it's better and more worthwhile and valuable to be able to give more of myself to a select few than to water myself down for the masses.

so, elizabeth -- as per that e-mail you sent me, yeah, i suck for not having responded yet, but i'm using the medium of the blogosphere to proclaim that i think you're brilliant and i'm damn glad to know you!