the sum of all things...

in a nice occurrence of serendipity (i'm not sure this is the right word for this, but whatev), i got a phone call yesterday from one of my favorite college friends. this is a woman that i think is so fantastic, and i really don't talk to her nearly enough anymore.

she called, we chatted, and then we got on the topic of how she's in a relationship that she needs to get out of. it's not a bad relationship. it's not unhealthy. it's just not what she wants and it's making her sad. and she's gone on like this for a while. so we talked and we talked, and we agreed that "the kind of guy that every nice girl in her 30s should want to marry" really isn't what either of us is looking for.

and oddly, having this conversation with my friend about a breakup after just having been broken up with was fantastically therapeutic for me. and i realized something about what i had just gone through -- that two people can be at the same point with things, but the way that manifests itself through the individual personalities can be very different. and there's more, but no need to go into that. and so i got it, i understood, and if i'm correct (and i really don't need to know whether i am or not) then i might have just attained the seldom attainable moment of clarity about the end of a relationship.

huh. and so it goes.