ex-boyfriends ruin all the good stuff...

i've got the ipod on shuffle and the current song is stevie wonder's "i believe (when i fall in love...)" which is a truly fantastic song. back when i was with stean, and when i would fall into reverie about my dream wedding, i decided (without really checking with stean) that this song would be the one we would dance to at our wedding reception. it's not really the best dancing-to song, but it does break it down there at the end, and that's the point where everybody would join in on the dancing, kinda like how my whole wedding party is going to do the hustle at my wedding reception.

but now is the song off limits? does the one-time association of a great song with a particular person spoil it for all future use once that person is no longer a part of your life? i know that's at least sometimes true -- mike, the boy who broke my heart in boston, ruined the cars' "just what i needed". well, mike and that circuit city commercial. and my high school boyfriend kinda destroyed jane's addiction's "ritual de lo habitual" album for me.

not that stean could ruin a perfectly good stevie wonder song, of course. i still have mostly good feelings about stean, and i certainly have no regrets about the three plus years i spent with him. but it seems a little creepy if someday i'm with someone and we end up getting hitched and i'm all, "so honey, i have the perfect wedding song for us -- i picked it out when i was with someone else!"

eh, whatever. what he doesn't know won't hurt him.

oh, and is it, like, inappropriate if i steal some lyrics from led zeppelin's "when the levee breaks" for the title of my seminar paper? and if it's not inappropriate, is it just a terrible idea?